My fiancé, friend, foreman and formidable force for good Damon is an incredibly cuddly character. He’s more a night owl while I am inaruably an early bird to bed and to rise. So with him being the snuggler that he is I sometimes wake up feeling like the Velveteen Rabbit from the beloved Hans Christian Anderson Tale. Over the last few years Damon and squeezed and hugged me most evenings, and his Love has healed a very sad and tired wee Dee. Not that I wasn’t real before his arrival. I’d been poked and stoked until all that was left was smoke there was no more fire (thank you Martha Wainwright for the feminist anthem).
Interestingly, I get genuinely annoyed when people say that Damon has “made you so happy Dee!” because I worked long and hard and stared down my demons and shadow self then changed my destructive ways (many of them at any rate) and grew my very own fucking happiness. Damon is his own human as am I, and we are each responsible for our own happiness. Still, despite being annoyed at the insinuation it was him who made me the happier, healthier old witch I am becoming, it is worth paying tribute to the fact that we do indeed make a pretty good team.
We’ve had a few days up at the farm together with plenty of work and play woven into the narrative. We’ve become very fond of a couple I social poached at my BFF Emily’s birthday party just over a year ago now. We are on a similar journey, as they have taken on a bunch of property projects and are battling ginger with the same level of exasperation as we are feeling with our plethora of pampas. We went out for dinner Saturday and lost track of Damon who we sent on an errand, as I had the keys in my bag and he locked his phone in the car and a three hour kerfuffle ensued. Strangely, it was an incredibly important turning point and reminder of how dedicated I am to the aloof goof/spunky monk. He was unsurprisingly salty by the time his son’s girlfriend Olive rescued him from his several mile hike heading home to the farm, and we had a long and emotional chat about our relationship that reminded us both how lucky we are to have found each other, and we have since spent the remainder of our time here on the farm stopping every few minutes to say thank you to the other for the life we are carving out.
We really do feel like the lucky ones. The vast majority of our days are spent content and satisfied and feeling overwhelmingly blessed to have found each other and managed to stay together through the very rocky start I put us both through.
Now we are living the dream, and building a long and intergenerational legacy and rarely (if ever) need step foot into stuffy offices or attend endless meetings. We have charged headlong into a slower, steadier pace and completely removed ourselves from corporate ladders and the rat race.
And we are moving ahead shoulder to shoulder with new and old friends who watch with wonder and encourage us to succeed. Our friends Mel and Simon could have (and many would have) been scared off by out dramatic Saturday adventures, including me quaffing too much rose and singing national anthems very loudly as we taxied back up the hill to the farm after abandoning the foot search for Damon and returning to find the phone I had left up the hill on the kitchen bench. My phone is equipped with a “find my Damon” feature.
And after a hectic and exhausting few hours, I did indeed find my Damon. And I realised that I am keen to keep him and him above any other with all my happy hobbit heart.
Have a great day, thank you for reading.